funny responses to what are you doing this weekend

Our relationship got better when I moved out. But it can also just mean I love you and want to hear about things youre doing that youre excited about; it comes up all the time with friends who live far away! Man, that sounds great, but I know Im forgetting something on my calendar. I dont think she feels disliked; theres really not a lot of conflict for us. It took a long time to figure out that I could just cheerfully respond, Why do you ask? In a friendly middle-class-lady voice, (almost as if I hope they are going to tell me something wonderful!). What are you doing this weekend? This is another good and funny response to give to "whats up" because depending on who you say it to, they might find it to be relatable enough to laugh at. Your tactic of combining the two points is the right way to go, I think. Why is that worth it? Wow, dear LW, that was a great message and it certainly gave me good points to think about. A: Thanks, you too. My answer to this question is almost invariably Not sure yet, why? or Havent quite decided, how about you?, This might elicit a Well I was just wondering if youd like to to which I will respond, That sounds better than what I was planning, count me in or Hmm, thanks for thinking of me but I dont think Ill be able to this time. As others have mentioned, if I say yes Im free and then they offer something I dont want, then I *really* feel the pressure to say yes because Ive already essentially told them I have nothing better to do. At least once I figured out that they genuinely *didnt* need to know anything about me if they were going to behave that way I could default to oh my god Im so busy! Similar boundary setting but this is a different angle. IMO the correct answer to we should get lunch some time or lets hang out is actually sure, Saturdays are generally good for me or Ive been meaning to see Black Panther. Ive spent some time in California and I never really know how to respond correctly. And just because my plans dont include hanging out with anyone or leaving my home, it doesnt mean that I am free or willing to cancel them. With new acquaintances, well often exchange We should hang out/get a drink/whatever sometime!s multiple times over a period of a few weeks or months before one of us says, Hey, Im going to Event on Friday, do you want to come? Its an intermediary step between I just met you and Lets hang out one-on-one at my request.. I feel like my best friend and I do this back and forth a lot, but thats because we understand there are tiers to plans. So when I get a what are you doing after work Friday? text halfway through work on Thursday just tell me what youre going to suggest in the same message. You? and see if he gets stuck in a loop. On a walk with my dinosaur. But I have made a major effort to train myself to STATE WHAT I WANT first. I dont want to give you a rundown of my plans. . The one my family goes with is Surviving. Wondering why you're in here. I really need to catch up on some sleep this weekend. That way they know Im not going to be up for a 7 am hike, or a 9am brunch, but if they wanted to do an early happy hour Im probably going to be up for it. Work it like a weekend warrior! Bonus points if you say something that makes zero sense, but you end up getting your family to look at you like a genius anyway. LW here. There are two good situations for teasing: 1) when someone talks about something unusual like Lily did; 2) when someone is not very good at something, such as singing out of tune. friend: yep cool What is the stuff?? 200 Sarcastic Quotes 1. Which for neurotypical types, is something that may not be hard to adapt to, but youre kind of being set up to failbecause that kind of question is exactly the kind of thing you would have been taught to do in kindergarten. It happens every time I get him as a teller. If you already made someone admit that they do not have Serious Plans, of course at this point saying no to your invitation is going to be so much more difficult, because its going to be rude! . [Reposting because it looks like my first comment was eaten.]. I get it from friends (who usually just want to find a time to hang and thats not so bad), my cousin (who usually wants me to babysit), my mom (whenever she wants to invite me somewhere), and people Im chatting with on dating websites. YOU WILL NEVER FORGET THIS VIDEO. Because people look forward to the weekend, they often start talking about it as early as Wednesday. Being a grown up with a family, studies and a job, friends and hobbies my life is often busy and so is my friends so we often use this website https://doodle.com/ but then people always know what kind of an event we are trying to schedule. An Australian tech and business journalist echoed this: "Great the new unsolicited email intro seems to be . But you, yours steals the show every time. ME: Hi [Friend], Id like to plan a karaoke night with you, are you free [date] or [date]? I too have found that nobody seems offended if I respond with a cheerful: Why? Without answering their question at all. My white mom has a very unusual first name (I dont know of anyone with a name that is even similar, AND its spelled with a non-English character) and, 40 years after she moved to the US people still ask her where shes from. I agree with you based on what shes told me, it feels very othering, and she resents it. Crossword puzzles, chess, sudoku, or other puzzle games Cooking Travel Gardening Art, music, crafts, writing, podcasting Im glad youre no longer friends with that jerk. So whats the fallout if I tell her I need her help with something, and she refuses without a good reason (because she wants to play Minecraft or listen to a podcast)? (In this case it was never exactly meant to result in actually doing anything), Them We need to have lunch soon morning (and then bending my ear the whole way up the road, when if we were alone Id be chatting to my kids, and we quite like that) to the point where the doorbell would go and my kids would be saying oh god no, not them again! and Im shushing them, but feel exactly the same way. We teach children that they must answer questions put to them by adults, that they have no choice in the matter. I get the where are you from? question all the time. And the balls in their court if they were actually trying to set up something fun. I get tempted to make stuff up like join the circus or sky diving or whatnot. (Im a lady dating ladies btw, if thats relevant, though I have also dated men before and my experience is definitely colored by some of the emotional labor / potential gender-related danger issues some of the commenters pointed out thats spot on). This auto-reply is just to let you know. My mum likes to do similar things, trying to out me on the spot and pressure me to agree to things when Im on the phone to her. It gives you a window into each others lives and invites you to share something about yourself. I actually liked her kid, and if shed just said she needed a sitter instead of tricking me into it, I wouldnt have minded babysitting.I ended up filling that child with sugar and caffeinated soda (he had a grand time), and forever answering Im so busy, ugh to all future questions about my plans. Im actually really surprised at how many people have expressed that they find this question neutral small talk and/or dont understand why it can feel so loaded. Him: You must be doing something. Theres this implication that the only reason you would ever want to say no to their request is if youre already busy, and yeah, thats annoying. It feels like they expect me to put in the majority of the effort, and it would be nice if once in a while instead of saying I dont see you enough they would say Would you be up for meeting up at the coffee shop on my town on Saturday if [their issues] allow? But its not something thats going to change, so I smile and nod at their noises and continue to plan things with them at exactly the rate I feel like doing so (including making extra effort if theyre going through a really tough thing). Flip the question back on them. No more Did I say sunday I meant saturday, now you have to change all your weekend plans ever again. She does recognize that its a way people make small talk and that its not likely to go away any time soon. Are you busy? Sometimes I deal with anxiety all weekend and its hard not to judge myself for that. In fact there the joke of cant do that, I have to.. (silly excuse of having plans like go wash my hair) that day illustrating that sometimes the white lie of making up plans is an easy way to get out of doing something. I read the question; did all of you who are saying its only about the manipulative cases? Especially not in NYC, where housing is so tight, and especially when she doesnt have a job.). Then, actually do check your calendar, check in with yourself if you actually want to do whatever it is, and answer the person when its convenient for you. My cousins with kids are trying to push their 8-12 year olds on me to tutor them and Im like 1. We can debate all day whether that should be true, but it is. Ive got annoyed enough over this that I have been uncharacteristically assertive and told him that I dont like being asked out like that and that Id prefer that he just ask me outright about whatever activity it is and the date. So threatening to make her move out is just not wise. "It's happening.". Any request for someones time, regardless of the setting of the fun variable in your mind. This is how I feel too. Since youre not busy, do you want to go to [event] with me? Great! Next week, tell me how it went? And then make myself a note to specifically ask about it. After decades of various sorts of problem behavior from my father, I literally hit a brick wall of having had enough, and weve been done ever since. Your turn to tell me what you have in mind!. *Him: Hello, how are you? Source: Facebook. They dont really need the details, and wouldnt know what to do with them. What are you doing this weekend? Of course, YMMV, and you know your family and the situation better than I do. I might not feel quite as entitled to her time, but Id probably still think there were some things I could ask of her that shed be wrong to refuse. Maybe shorter comments go through immediately but longer ones need mod-approval? When I issue a soft invitation I am often not sure if the person wants to hang out at all, and getting a Yes, get in touch and let me know when youd like to do something would encourage me to go on and do the planning whereas Yeah, we really should I would be more likely to read as I dont really want to do anything. Ill do it anyway, but saying it that way doesnt make it somehow not an order, Mom! Funny Responses To What Are You Doing Actively waiting for my problems to go away. DP: As you know, [ note, I do not know ] I need someone to [ renew my library book | paint my bathroom | walk my parakeet | clean my cat litter ] and I hoped you might help. Why? Those things influence what I ask of my kid, and they influence how I ask it. If I were any better, I'd be you. *In my case, Z has agreed to push the Ask her yourself button instead of passing messages along. #1078: Sooooooowhat are you doing thisweekend?, Follow CaptainAwkward.com on WordPress.com. Excellent insight and analysis. Its an opener, like Hot enough for you? Or How about that sportsquad at the sportsmatch? The content of your answer is secondary to the dynamic of conversation. Now the only person allowed to see my personal calendar is my husband, who is completely uninterested. I completely get anything to do with joint maintenance of shared space responsibilities for shared spaces need to be clearly shared out and individuals need to do their share. Then Ill say Whats up? or Whats going on then? or What did you have in mind?. Funny Responses to "How Are You?" that will make people laugh Science of People 815K subscribers Subscribe 3K Share 53K views 7 months ago #vanessavanedwards #conversation #communication How. ME to GROUP CHAT: [Friend] and I are planning karaoke on [date] If you are available and interested, please let me know by [date] and Ill reserve a room! I'll leave you to be the judge of when it's most appropriate, all . How do I know if my comment was lost or is just stuck in a mod queue? "Yes, the weekend always . 2. And then they get all pissy because the girl is taken aback by being asked out so abruptly by this guy about whom she knows pretty much nothing except his appearance. Great, Thanks for Asking. I like to use Oh, you know, just some of the usual weekend stuff. The person is clearly saying something bigoted or 2. Which sometimes was fine but not always. Im sure to him thats bewildering, but to me its bewildering that for so long he simply refused to choose to behave with appropriate respect. My blood pressure. I know that doesnt solve your overall problem, and I dont know what a reasonable solution is Im Sorry youre struggling right now. Our college was selling cheap tickets for an outdoor ice skating event. Ex.1. Funny Answers to How Are You Doing? If someone just says yeah that tells me theyre not actually that interested. I use the phrase same old stuff! In this situation. Yes! Should I keep doing what Im doing? That it can be based on something as intangible as a mood. I think feeling unsafe crosses the line where a relationship cant be repaired. after Ive made my piece clear. Im much better at saying no now, and I realize that in most situations saying no is a perfectly socially acceptable answer. So with someone new, Did you do anything good last weekend? I really wish I had some better scripts to deal with this stuff how do I limit our contact with her to a level where the kids and I are still happy to see her, without pissing her off? She asked me if we were doing anything on a certain day and I was like I cant think of what it is right now but we are definitely doing something that day. She then mentioned a big thing that was on in town this week and yes, that was in fact the thing that we were going to, so I was like Yes! Its great! Im white and an immigrant in the country where I live. Do I think X is a fair thing to insist upon? MY plans!) It's nice that they want to know about your plans, but their curiosity can feel more like an interrogation. Him: Doing anything else? because sometimes we have plans that cant change. I agree with the Captain that its all about boundaries. For me, it makes saying no so much harder. It is trickery and so frustrating. You're still implying you have a lot going on, but you're demonstrating that you're handling it. Updog. Any/all such inquiries get an automatic Unsure have to ask my other half., Sans that Id just go with Unsure. I usually end up saying something noncommittal like I might be doing xyz, but Im not sure yet why? and waiting to see what the actual deal is. I myself often do not care what Im eating because FOOD, but even if I have zero preference as to the restaurant, I will engage in the decision making process in order to help the other person out, and also because it gets us to food that much faster. Shes right to find it othering and exhausting. Oh my god I have to go to (thing) which is (plaaaaace). to add: I think if there are people youre close to who do this a lot, like your sister, you can just tell them its a small thing but it bugs you and can they please ask a different way. People ask this to fill the time while standing at the break room microwave, not bc they want to trap you into revealing state secrets and hardcore kinks. Always always have a plan I forgot about until next day. I feel like letting her sleep is far more important than my social life right now., Sorry, I know it sounds like a stupid excuse. Many of your comments in this thread have, in fact. We were asking about things they like or dont like about America compared to the countries they grew up in. is how this has been explained to me, and it makes perfect sense. Thank you! I also get your daughter refusing to comply with requests that arent made with at least normal adult civility it was not even a request, in fact, but an order. Saying no at that point feels rude, and yeah some people have reacted badly. If the other person isnt in a chatty mood, we go comfortably silent after a few pleasantries because the Small Talk Gods have been appeased. The pushback on needing brain time though makes sense. Im struggling not so much w/ her being at home as I am w/ my worries about her, and with trying to decide whats the best thing for me to doapply pressure? Helen Huntingdon mentioned interruptingI just want to say, thats a helluva an assumption. Yeah if I like the person and might be into it I usually friend-flirt with a depends on why!. I dont give any indication as to what I am up to until they tell me what they are up to. Like Sounds great but tonight wouldnt work for me or Yknow what, Im pretty tired, I could have made something shorter work but that play will just be too much or just Hm, nah. She got like that by working three times as hard as everyone else and being three times as smart as everyone else. I know this is a small complaint, in the grand scheme of things, and I usually handle it by changing the subject to something Im interested in if I *do* feel like conversing. Your friends and family will get off the phone with you and wonder why they aren't grabbing life by the horns the way you are. The method that has been the most successful for me is to ask one person if theyre available/interested in an event, work out a date, and then specify such event in a group chat. Ive been loving all your responses on this thread. Usually people have to give me a straight answer after that. For example, Looking forward to the weekend? or I hope you get to relax this weekend.; My take is that if they wish to continue the conversation, they will do so, but if not, they can reply with a Yes/No. You would think, right? During [business_hours] that's usually within a couple of hours. It's funny I don't even register the question "How are you?" (I've lived equal times on the West and East coasts of the US), but I see a couple of UK commenters upthread and when I lived there I never, ever got used to "You alright?" which, functionally, isn't that different. FRIEND: I am available [date]! I have a colleaguestraight white well-employed middle-class-raised Christian cis man, so about as privileged as you can get in Americawho opts out of a lot of what he considers to be optional social stuff. Being one half of a couple is also very handy in this respect. 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I sympathize with their reasons for having trouble planning, but I also do find it a little irksome that they only initiate actual plans once a year for their birthday while still making all the sounds about wanting to hang out. My small college town has become a lot more cosmopolitan over my lifetime, and weve got enough of an international population now that Im deeply curious about many of the customers at the store where I work. But if her idea is super cool or needs to be done on a certain date, Ill absolutely shelve my TV watching for another night! Funny Mom Quotes (and Sayings) For people I know, the answer is closer to what you say is the norm in Sweden anything from Having a truly awesome day to Need more coffee to counteract the baby waking up an hour before the alarm. For close friends, I can and have answered with details about what the brain weasels are up to today. For small talk, I like to ask questions where the answer can be simple. Im sure its benignly intended but its intrusive. At least, it never has for me! So setting a rent that I would for any other adult is simply not applicable. They were being blunt and probably didnt realize the pressure I felt to say yes to direct requests, and didnt understand why I felt hurt when, upon working up the courage to ask for something directly, it was turned down. Ive been known to do that to friends, since Im one of those people who freaks out when I hit the wrong key and the computer does something unexpected. But more often we talk about their kids or grandkids or the cute hat theyre wearing or the wedding theyre shopping for. Unless I have specific plans that I want to talk about, my two go to answers are: Oh, Im not sure yet! if Im open to a suggestion from who Im talking to; or Oh, Im not sure yet, why? if I feel like theyre being nosy or trying to figure out what my schedule is so they can invite me to something when they know Im free then put pressure on my if I say no (mother, Im looking at you). The bad news is that this question probably isnt going anywhere in our lifetime. In every group Ive been in it is socially acceptable and expected that you can say youre busy for whatever reason you want. With friends and family you can be more honest if you like, but you dont have to. I am so devoted to nail care now that it takes me 27 hours to get my tips right! The fallout you talk about? This is such a common question, and I have a memory like a sieve, and once or twice replied Nothing much and accepted invitations which ended up double booking myself. (And if you are Susie, forget about it!). It happens, even, as above, to straight white cis etc. Others also have lives to plan and need to know (cancel event, find someone else, make other plans). We should definetely try to avoid stealth scheduling questions. Catching up on sleep, doing chores, spending time with my partner. I know its a big favor, but obviously I would pay you, and I have cable, high-speed internet, and a chocolate fountain with dark, milk, and bittersweet streams. Then I can pin them down on what, and when, without having pre-committed myself to some favor they were hinting at sideways. If someone asks me the question, I am happy, because that means they are probably inviting me somewhere. They are called Saturday and Sunday." - Anonymous 3. And then I would walk away thinking that was a really awkward conversation and wonder if that person didnt like me or was fishing for an invitation to something or what. Im surprised to find out this is annoying, I guess, because I am such a What are you up to this weekend? asker when I want to hang out. This one calls for what I call the Gladys response, because I saw it articulated by a woman named Gladys.

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